How to Thrive (No Matter the Election Results)
I started writing this on the morning of Election Day (in the U.S.), knowing that the results of this election will make many people feel ALL kinds of ways since it appears the nation is pretty evenly split down the middle.
(Note: As I publish this, Donald Trump has secured the title as the 47th President of the United States. Some of you are rejoicing; some of you are anxious and upset. And some of you may be just wishing for the best.)
As a positive psychologist, I wanted to share a few ideas if you’re feeling a little ungrounded or stressed due to the election. The most resilient people in the world have learned how to process their emotions and stay focused on the path before them, even when curve balls and hardship come their way. Even if the candidate of your choice won, navigating the path forward in a society that seems, so often, at odds with itself can be emotionally draining.
“Resilience, in a sense, is applied optimism.”
― Kate O'Neill
Three Science-Backed Strategies to Stay Emotionally Resilient
(Even in the midst of challenging circumstances like U.S. politics!):
Focus on What’s Within Your Control
Research in psychology shows that focusing on what we can control boosts emotional resilience. We may not be able to control election results, but we can control our actions and reactions. Directing our energy towards small, positive actions each day—like nurturing relationships, practicing kindness, or creating healthy routines—can empower us and foster peace.
Practice Radical Acceptance
Radical acceptance, a key concept in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), encourages us to fully accept reality as it is without resistance. When we accept what we cannot change, it frees up mental energy and reduces stress. It can be helpful to remember that acceptance doesn’t mean agreement; rather, it’s a powerful way to release anxiety and find balance, trusting that we’ll be guided in ways we might not see yet.
Seek Connection and Community
Connection with others is a proven protector of mental health. Engaging in community—whether by joining discussions, supporting causes, or even just talking with loved ones—reminds us that we’re not alone. Connection reaffirms our shared humanity and encourages us to draw on collective wisdom and hope. It reminds us that change happens not just in moments, but in how we support each other every day.
If you read those and think: I’m gonna need more than that to get through the next 24-48 hrs!” I’m also sharing a link to an article I wrote earlier this year where I share practical steps and free worksheets to help you deal with dysregulated emotions— which I’m guessing a few of you might experience as a result of this election.
In it, I share one of my favorite easy strategies for children AND adults: the Five Senses Exercise, which is meant to help you stay grounded and present at any point in the day.
So, whether you’re feeling hopeful or scared today, I want to encourage you to do the small steps you can to take care of yourself.
Happy Flourishing,
Dr. Andrea
